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Saturday, February 23, 2008

A Little Boy's Questions

We were sitting together doing out studies. Joel (11 years old) and Ethaniel (6 years old) was curious about relationships - Boy Girl Relationship (BGR), that is. I told them that its OK to like girls at this age. Its normal.

Ethaniel: Do I have to marry a girl?

Me: Yes but preferably a woman.

Ethaniel: Like Daddy?

Me: Maybe. But not right now.

Ethaniel: Like Daddy's age?

Me: Yes. About that. When you like a girl, tell Mommy first (directing more towards Joel). Then, Mommy can help you to check out, if the girl is a nice person or not. You don't want to have a bad tempered, full of anger, hatred and unforgiving wife, do you? You want a wife who is a Godly person, generous, kind and does what God wants her to do, right?

Joel: Yes.

Me: Just treat the girls like friends and go out together in a group. Its not nice if you have a girlfriend and then having to break-up. Its very painful. Sometimes you feel very hurt and cries. I have gone through it before. Its tough. Your Auntie has just gone through it.

Suddenly I noticed that Ethaniel was teary eyed.

Me: Why Ethaniel?

Ethaniel: I feel very sad. *sniff*

I was so suprised at his compassionate heart. My 6 years old feeling the hurt of others who have gone through relationship heartaches.

*sigh*

Can I ever protect my precious sons from the heartaches of this world?

I will. If I can.

Every Mother would.

Every now and then, I will bring in subjects like this in a very informal way to let them know how I feel about things like this. Its not in a very serious tone but thought provoking. At least they know my expectations and feelings about BGR. Its not an easy topic but inevitable.

2 comments:

Kellan said...

What a sweet conversation with your special boys. It is so hard for us moms! I don't like to think about my little boy being married and gone - it makes me sad.

Have a good weekend - see you soon. Kellan

Eagles' Wings said...

I know. I sure feel the same.