We were sitting together doing out studies. Joel (11 years old) and Ethaniel (6 years old) was curious about relationships - Boy Girl Relationship (BGR), that is. I told them that its OK to like girls at this age. Its normal.
Ethaniel: Do I have to marry a girl?
Me: Yes but preferably a woman.
Ethaniel: Like Daddy?
Me: Maybe. But not right now.
Ethaniel: Like Daddy's age?
Me: Yes. About that. When you like a girl, tell Mommy first (directing more towards Joel). Then, Mommy can help you to check out, if the girl is a nice person or not. You don't want to have a bad tempered, full of anger, hatred and unforgiving wife, do you? You want a wife who is a Godly person, generous, kind and does what God wants her to do, right?
Joel: Yes.
Me: Just treat the girls like friends and go out together in a group. Its not nice if you have a girlfriend and then having to break-up. Its very painful. Sometimes you feel very hurt and cries. I have gone through it before. Its tough. Your Auntie has just gone through it.
Suddenly I noticed that Ethaniel was teary eyed.
Me: Why Ethaniel?
Ethaniel: I feel very sad. *sniff*
I was so suprised at his compassionate heart. My 6 years old feeling the hurt of others who have gone through relationship heartaches.
*sigh*
Can I ever protect my precious sons from the heartaches of this world?
I will. If I can.
Every Mother would.
Every now and then, I will bring in subjects like this in a very informal way to let them know how I feel about things like this. Its not in a very serious tone but thought provoking. At least they know my expectations and feelings about BGR. Its not an easy topic but inevitable.
Ethaniel: Do I have to marry a girl?
Me: Yes but preferably a woman.
Ethaniel: Like Daddy?
Me: Maybe. But not right now.
Ethaniel: Like Daddy's age?
Me: Yes. About that. When you like a girl, tell Mommy first (directing more towards Joel). Then, Mommy can help you to check out, if the girl is a nice person or not. You don't want to have a bad tempered, full of anger, hatred and unforgiving wife, do you? You want a wife who is a Godly person, generous, kind and does what God wants her to do, right?
Joel: Yes.
Me: Just treat the girls like friends and go out together in a group. Its not nice if you have a girlfriend and then having to break-up. Its very painful. Sometimes you feel very hurt and cries. I have gone through it before. Its tough. Your Auntie has just gone through it.
Suddenly I noticed that Ethaniel was teary eyed.
Me: Why Ethaniel?
Ethaniel: I feel very sad. *sniff*
I was so suprised at his compassionate heart. My 6 years old feeling the hurt of others who have gone through relationship heartaches.
*sigh*
Can I ever protect my precious sons from the heartaches of this world?
I will. If I can.
Every Mother would.
Every now and then, I will bring in subjects like this in a very informal way to let them know how I feel about things like this. Its not in a very serious tone but thought provoking. At least they know my expectations and feelings about BGR. Its not an easy topic but inevitable.
2 comments:
What a sweet conversation with your special boys. It is so hard for us moms! I don't like to think about my little boy being married and gone - it makes me sad.
Have a good weekend - see you soon. Kellan
I know. I sure feel the same.
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